We don’t think you’re being managing. But i believe the you both want to sit back and calmly find your relationship boundaries together. Otherwise, he’ll feel like you’re imposing like you can really trust him to stick to the “rules” you’ve laid down on him, and you won’t feel. Hash that one out together, arrive at the basis of the disquiet therefore as you are able to articulate it to your Boyfriend or closest friend, and stay prepared to compromise unless you both have to relationship boundaries that are comfortable for both of you and respect the friendships and relationships that predate your love.
Your response is normal, but their watching of the as over-reaction can also be normal. Neither of you is “right” along with working together to get some ground that is common. That’s planning to suggest compromise on each of the components. Not just his.
What’s reasonable for you may be unreasonable to a different. My fi and I also are comfortable with one another resting over during the houses of buddies of this opposing intercourse, except for anyone we now have a “history” with— actually more when it comes to psychological images’ sake than such a thing. It is perhaps perhaps maybe not that i suppose he’s likely to shag their ex-girlfriend if he sleeps in her own visitor room. It is me the whole time he’s there that I don’t need the mental images of their past haunting. But I don’t mind him staying there if it’s one of his many female friends that he’s got no “history” with. And then he does not mind me personally sticking with my male friends either, because of the exact same boudaries. Read More